Eric, thanks for inviting me here. I am in the same boat!

I hate it when feelings get hurt, but then I also hate doing some of the work up front which prevents feelings from getting hurt.

Like today I found a tenant who wants to rent a house from me, and I was feeling desperate to rent it because so many people have looked at it and passed on it, so when she said she wanted to rent it, I was like, cool, then it's a deal.

And in my mind flashed the warning, "at least you should ask her what her credit is like, where she works, etc." but I was feeling so good about getting the place rented that I really hesitated to ask any uncomfortable questions.

After that meeting I had that feeling that maybe things would go well, and maybe not. It was a gamble. I didn't have that feeling I have when I have done all my homework and I'm prepared and feeling very positive I have what it takes to succeed. (In this case, we will have another meeting where we go over all aspects of the lease, so I get another chance to ask the hard questions before signing the contract and handing her the keys, but if something major comes up then I will have wasted our time, compared to finding out right away.)

I have noticed that every time a relationship problem occurs, there was a time before that when I could have prevented that problem, and I didn't, usually because I am worried about what the other person will think of me, or I'm worried I will miss some opportunity if I say what's on my mind. Does that sound familiar?

And you and Moses are both not just good people, but amazing. Watching you guys hash it out is like watching Germany and France and Italy creating the European Union.